A comment under a viral relationship debate read: “Na only mumu woman go think say man no fit wake up and dump her. Hope for the best, expect the worst from a man.”
Pain and caution aren’t the problem—prejudgment is. Statements like this promote distrust as survival strategy, masking sexism as emotional intelligence. It reduces every Nigerian woman who believes in love to a fool, and paints every Nigerian man as inherently unreliable.
Healthy relationships require awareness of red flags—patterns of abuse, manipulation, or infidelity—not expecting emotional disaster as default. Conditioning women to brace for heartbreak from any man, at any time, breeds anxiety, weakens boundaries with evidence-based judgment, and normalizes hostility in love.
Trust wisely. Vet critically. But stop turning entire genders into villains or victims. The real red flag is teaching trauma-based suspicion over balanced human connection.
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