A viral update about actress Anita Joseph throwing her husband’s bags out over alleged infidelity went wide across Nigeria’s online space. Amid the reactions, one comment stood out for its troubling tone: “Na people wey dey trust men I dey pity.”
The pity isn’t protection—it’s prejudice. Conversations around betrayal should spotlight offenders, not vilify entire gender groups. Nigerian relationships already swim in distrust, but amplifying blanket suspicion makes partnership harder. Whether in Nigeria or diaspora communities across countries like the United Kingdom, love succeeds when built on accountability, boundaries, and earned trust, not stereotypes.
Infidelity is an individual crime, not a gender trademark. Advising women to expect heartbreak or deception by default shifts attention from red-flag behavior to emotional warfare. Criticize betrayal, not belief in trust.
The real red flag? A mindset that mourns hope while excusing patterns of harm. Trust smart, not scared.
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