A viral Facebook post about a married woman caught cheating triggered the expected debate—anger at betrayal, shock at denial, and community confrontation. Yet one comment raised a different concern: “The lady is at fault, not the guy,” fully absolving the man of any blame.
Infidelity involves two adults who made a conscious decision. Assigning guilt to only one because she’s the woman isn’t accountability—it’s bias. Agencies like the Domestic and Sexual Violence Agency exist because victim-blaming keeps offenders loud and victims silent. When we declare one party “faultless” by default, we excuse responsibility, encourage power imbalance, and normalize harmful double standards.
The real red flag isn’t calling out the woman—it’s refusing to call out the man too. Hold individuals accountable, not identities, not genders. Blame actions equally, not conveniently.
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