A recent story about a teenage boy causing trouble for his family after his father’s death sparked online discussions about the vital role fathers play in the lives of their children. One response stood out: “In all said, oikin wey wan spoil go spoil,” meaning no matter the training, it depends on the child. While this sentiment acknowledges that personal choices and character are important, it oversimplifies the situation. Parenting is not just about the child’s inherent nature; it involves guidance, emotional support, and role models—especially after the loss of a father. Comments like this downplay the profound impact of a positive, present father figure in shaping a child’s future, reducing complex family dynamics to a fatalistic view of “bad” children. It’s important to recognize that while a child’s choices matter, they are shaped by the environment and upbringing around them.
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