A man recently shared a troubling first-date experience. He explained that while on a date, the lady ordered food not only for herself but also for her sister and friends who were not present. The bill reportedly climbed to nearly ₦400,000. He declined to cover the extra orders and paid only for himself and his date. She later insulted him for that decision.
In the midst of reactions, one comment shifted blame to the man: “Why carry the girl go date if you can’t afford her stomach.”
This response is deeply flawed. A date is an invitation to share time, not a blank cheque for unchecked spending or third-party benefits. Financial capacity does not equal consent to exploitation. Normalizing such entitlement encourages disrespect and transactional dating. Accountability matters on both sides, and declining unreasonable demands is not poverty—it is boundaries and self-respect.
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