A man shared a story about lending N20,000 to a lady who later refused to pay him back, claiming he shouldn’t have asked for repayment. This sparked numerous comments. One user responded, “It’s not about the sex… it’s about who the person is… As a matter of fact, I don’t lend people money, they don’t pay back…”
This comment reflects a common sentiment of distrust in lending. While personal experiences can shape caution, the blanket refusal to help others risks punishing genuinely trustworthy individuals. It also shifts focus from the behavior of the borrower to the lender’s fear, fostering cynicism in social interactions.
Financial boundaries are important, but the discussion highlights how repeated negative experiences can harden people against reasonable requests, potentially undermining trust in everyday relationships.
— The Red Flags
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