A video circulated online showing a woman slapping a man who proposed to her at an event. While many people expressed concern, one woman delivered a shocking response. She wrote:
“I have shown my son ‘Akorede’ this video with a serious warning that in the event of something like this happening to him, if he does not get up and return a much more heavier resounding slap to the stupid girl, he ‘Akorede’ will cease to be my son.”
This type of comment is alarming on many levels. First, it normalizes violence as a solution — not just between strangers, but in intimate situations where emotions are already heightened. Violence should never be encouraged, regardless of who started it. Teaching a child — especially a son — that retaliation is the correct response only fuels a cycle of abuse.
Second, threatening to “disown” a child if he chooses restraint over violence is unhealthy parenting. It teaches boys that being a man means responding with aggression and that kindness, self‑control, or walking away makes them weak. This reinforces the toxic idea that masculinity must be violent.
Finally, these comments trivialize real issues around conflict resolution and assault. Instead of advising reporting, safety, or de-escalation, it glorifies physical retaliation.
Violence is not a joke. It is not content. It is not culture. Encouraging it — especially to children — is a dangerous red flag that shapes the next generation in the worst possible way.
— The Red Flags
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