A controversial tweet from the X platform sparked debate: “If my man earn 500k monthly, he must be giving me 450k.” Her clarification—earn meaning income, giving meaning unconditional ownership—revealed a mindset worth questioning.
Setting expectations for support is normal. Demanding 90% of a partner’s salary as obligation is not. That ultimatum ignores rent, feeding, transport, family responsibilities, savings, and financial autonomy. Relationships built with “must” and percentages resemble profit-sharing, not partnership.
Real financial discussions should feel collaborative—shared planning, transparency, compassion—not extraction with deadlines. Narratives like this package entitlement as empowerment and pressure young men to stretch themselves into silence and burnout.
Support is love. Ownership of someone’s livelihood is control—and The Red Flags see it clearly.
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