The conversation around single parenting took an even darker turn after a woman advised mothers not to give their children the surname of an absent father. While that alone sparked debate, the replies that followed exposed a disturbing level of emotional cruelty toward children.
After one user jokingly suggested using “juju” to stop children from asking about their father, another escalated the sentiment with this shocking response: “Any pikin wey I suffer train come grow dey find him papa na to cause dat pikin asap.”
Translated, the commenter is essentially saying that any child they struggled to raise who later wants to look for their father deserves to be cursed or punished. This mindset is deeply troubling. It treats a child’s natural curiosity about their identity and origins as betrayal rather than a normal emotional need. Critics argue that such rhetoric reveals how unresolved bitterness toward absent partners is often misdirected at innocent children. Instead of promoting healing and emotional maturity, comments like this normalize resentment, emotional abuse, and the erasure of a child’s right to know where they come from.
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