After a woman shared her disappointment over repeatedly dating married men, one comment chose encouragement over accountability: “Keep going, you will get there.”
This statement is toxic because it presents harmful behavior as a journey toward success, as if persistence will eventually justify the damage done along the way. It ignores the ethical violations, emotional toll, and inevitable instability that come with relationships built on secrecy and betrayal. By telling her to “keep going,” the commenter dismisses the clear pattern of pain and reframes it as temporary failure rather than a warning sign. There is nothing to “get to” in relationships that begin by hurting others and end in disappointment. Encouragement without responsibility is not support; it is endorsement of self-destructive choices. Real growth requires breaking harmful cycles, not motivating someone to remain trapped in them.
