A diaspora marriage discussion took a dark twist when a comment read: “Marriage is a curse on men over there. Their men have turned themselves into women’s eternal slaves.”
Hyperbolic claims like this are more harmful than helpful. Countries like the United Kingdom are home to thriving Nigerian families proving that Diaspora Marriages can work when built on mutual respect, not hierarchy. Labeling marriage a “curse” and men “slaves” pushes gender narratives into warfare, reframing partnership as servitude, not cooperation.
Yes, cultural shifts abroad may demand more shared responsibility, emotional openness, and financial balance—expectations some men struggle to navigate. But turning adaptation into degradation paints every Nigerian men abroad as victims of marriage, fueling resentment instead of reform.
The real red flag? Believing love equals ownership or slavery. Marriage should evolve into shared duty, not exaggerated doom or gender blame-games.
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