A man shared that he wants an affectionate partner—someone who plans dates, gives gifts, spends on him, and offers compliments—because he doesn’t want a nonchalant relationship. His post focused on mutual effort and emotional care.
In response, one user attacked him with the comment: “Just change your gender nau,” implying that men are not allowed to express such desires from women.
This mindset is unfair and restrictive. Emotional needs and expectations in a relationship are human, not gender-specific. Men, like women, are entitled to desire care, affection, and reciprocity from their partners. Silencing these legitimate feelings reinforces toxic masculinity, discourages openness, and fosters unhealthy dynamics where men are pressured to suppress vulnerability instead of cultivating balanced, respectful partnerships.
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