My First Concern If A Man Is Raped Is If He Enjoyed It - Ipadabo Real Queen

A man shared his experience of being sexually assaulted by a female friend who drugged him, hoping to shed light on the reality that men can be victims and often struggle to be taken seriously. Instead of empathy, some reactions in the comment section mocked and invalidated his ordeal.

One reply read: “E sweet you abi e no sweet you? Answer first.”

This comment is deeply harmful because it tries to pressure the victim into framing the assault as enjoyment rather than a violation. It shifts focus away from consent and wrongdoing and instead attempts to manipulate the narrative into something trivial or humorous. This kind of response reinforces damaging myths that men cannot be sexually assaulted or that their experiences only matter if they felt pleasure. Such attitudes silence survivors, discourage reporting, and perpetuate a culture where abuse is minimized instead of condemned.