My Worth Is Tied To How My Man Spends On Me - Ashabul Jannah

In response to a post comparing traditional gender roles in Nigeria with those in other parts of the world—where both partners typically share financial responsibilities—one user commented, “Truth is you can’t meet her standards. It just proves you’re not ready for a real relationship. A real woman knows her worth, and that clearly terrifies you.” This statement promotes a toxic ideology, implying that a “real” woman is one who expects a man to take care of her every need, reducing her to a financial liability.

Such mindsets perpetuate unhealthy dynamics in relationships, where one partner is expected to carry the full financial burden. True partnerships thrive on mutual support, respect, and shared responsibilities. Empowering both partners to contribute equally, emotionally and financially, builds healthier, more balanced relationships based on respect rather than dependence.