A post about a Nigerian man in the UK who discovered nude pictures of his wife sent to a white man, and is contemplating divorce and custody, attracted various online reactions. One comment stated: “The minute you forgive her, she will do something more horrible.”
This comment encourages a pessimistic and unforgiving approach to relationships, assuming that forgiveness leads to worse behavior. While trust may be broken, the idea that forgiveness always results in further betrayal overlooks the potential for change, accountability, and growth. Every relationship should be judged individually, and decisions like divorce or forgiveness should be based on thoughtful reflection, not blanket assumptions. Encouraging a hardline stance can prevent healing and overlook the complexities of human behavior.
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https://x.com/wizarab10/status/1841975065534992451?s=46
https://x.com/dipsoncrown/status/1842026961121497095?s=46
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