Clergyman Kingsley Okonkwo’s statement about a perceived shortage of eligible men sparked intense debate online. One woman reinforced this view by saying, “To find eligible man among many men now is like trekking from Nigeria to London,” implying it is nearly impossible. While frustration with modern dating is common, this comment is problematic because it broadly dismisses men as largely unworthy of marriage. Such exaggerations fuel gender hostility and reinforce hopelessness rather than encouraging healthy standards and discernment. Reducing an entire gender to scarcity or failure ignores individual character, growth, and accountability. Conversations about compatibility and values are valid, but framing marriage as an impossible quest promotes cynicism, resentment, and division. Healthy relationships thrive on realistic expectations, mutual effort, and personal responsibility—not sweeping generalizations that deepen mistrust between men and women.
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