A man shared how his date avoided a 14k ice-cream stop and led him to a cheaper 2,500-per-cup spot, showing thoughtfulness and financial sense. Many praised her for maturity and subtle partnership energy.
Then came a toxic-masculinity comment: “If you can’t afford ₦28,000 for 2 Cold Stone Ice Cream, you’re not qualified to take any lady out! As a gent, you should’ve insisted on paying for Cold Stone.”
The comment is a red flag because it ties manhood, class, and dating “qualification” to expensive spending, involving brands like Cold Stone Creamery. Logically, financial ability isn’t proven by overspending, and being a “gent” isn’t measured by who insists louder or pays higher—it’s shown through emotional intelligence, respect, and wise decisions both partners agree on.
A real date win is value, connection, and consideration—not price tags or forced demonstrates of masculinity. Maturity impresses longer than insistence, and thoughtfulness sustains better than performance.
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