Only men that you have helped will help you in times of need women will never help you - Innocent Chizaram Alison

A man shared a story about lending his friend ₦1.5 million to travel abroad, and three years later the friend surprised him with a Lexus car as appreciation. The story sparked widespread reactions online, with many praising the gesture as proof that genuine help can sometimes come back multiplied.

One comment, however, read: “Help a man it’s called investment, help a woman it’s called charity.”

This statement is problematic because it promotes a gender stereotype that paints men as inherently more reliable or rewarding than women. It reduces acts of kindness to calculated returns and unfairly generalizes women as less likely to reciprocate support. Such comparisons ignore individual character and reinforce divisive narratives that pit genders against each other, rather than recognizing that gratitude and loyalty are personal traits—not gender traits.