Pleasure Yourself Anally If Your Spouse Refuses - Nkem Somto

A man recently shared his feelings of hurt after his wife accused him of being gay for expressing a sexual desire for her to put her finger in his anus. He revealed that he enjoys this experience, having previously experimented with a dildo. Rather than responding with understanding, his wife laughed and dismissed his feelings, leaving him feeling betrayed for trusting her with his desires.

In the discussion that followed, many commenters questioned his openness about his preferences before marriage, while others suggested he might be gay or bisexual. One comment advised, “Embrace yourself. If she doesn’t want to participate in your fantasies, then satisfy yourself.” While seemingly supportive, this advice overlooks a crucial aspect of male pleasure.

Encouraging a man to explore pleasure solely through anal stimulation risks misunderstanding intimacy. Instead, fostering open dialogue about desires can enhance connection and lead to a more fulfilling relationship.