Sexually Reserved Men Are Gays - Yomi Olaleye

A post claiming that sexually reserved men are the best sparked a controversial comment, with one user responding, “That’s how yall get married to Gabriel.” The implication behind the comment is that sexually reserved men are gay, using “Gabriel” as a stand-in for a stereotypical depiction of homosexuality. This remark reflects a common stereotype that assumes men who aren’t overtly sexual must be gay, perpetuating narrow views about masculinity and sexual orientation.

Such comments not only reinforce harmful assumptions but also undermine the diversity of male sexuality and the value of self-restraint. Reducing a man’s sexual choices to his orientation disregards the complexity of individual preferences, experiences, and values. Instead of fostering respect for personal boundaries and choices, remarks like this create a stigma around sexual restraint, linking it with negative or inaccurate perceptions of identity.