The main story involved a woman who shared how a man paid her transportation fare despite her initial refusal, later asked for her phone number, and then reclaimed the money when she declined his request. The situation triggered conversations about consent, boundaries, and the expectation that favors from men must be repaid with access or attention.
In response, a stereotypic comment read, “Na so Tiv men dey do.” By framing the man’s behavior as typical of Tiv men, the comment shifted the issue away from individual conduct and unfairly generalized it to an entire ethnic group. Rather than addressing the problematic expectation attached to the gesture, the remark reinforced harmful stereotypes, which only deepens social divisions and distracts from the real lesson in the story: kindness should not come with coercive strings attached.
LINKS
