A toxic piece of advice circulated on X stating, “Before marrying a woman, allow her to catch you cheating to be sure she has a forgiving spirit.”
This statement is deeply problematic because it promotes deliberate betrayal as a test of character. It frames deception and emotional harm as acceptable tools for evaluation, while placing the burden of forgiveness on the victim rather than accountability on the offender.
Normalizing such behavior encourages manipulation and undermines trust, which is foundational to any healthy relationship. Forgiveness should never be forced, engineered, or used as proof of worthiness.
Advice like this distorts the meaning of love and commitment, presenting cruelty as wisdom. Healthy relationships are built on honesty and respect—not intentional harm designed to “test” someone’s tolerance for betrayal.
LINKS
