In the same discussion about Ejike bringing his partner to the UK and the relationship allegedly deteriorating after shared financial responsibilities, another biased comment surfaced: “But 1000 from her is too much naw, why not 500? Na she dey help you o.”
While bargaining or debating household contributions is normal, the underlying sentiment in this comment is misplaced. It frames the woman’s contribution as “helping” the man—implying that financial responsibility in a relationship is his duty alone and that anything she adds is a favour.
This narrative ignores the reality that partners in a committed relationship are supposed to support each other mutually. When both people live together, benefit from shared expenses, and earn incomes, contributing to household bills is not “helping” the other party; it is building together.
Such comments reinforce outdated gender expectations and distort healthy partnership dynamics. They turn collaboration into charity and responsibilities into negotiations of privilege—making relationships feel transactional rather than balanced and respectful.
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